The Five Practices of Freedom series is closing this week, on the Live Your Freedom Now podcast, with a practice I believe is a huge reframe of the current Dominant Dogma: how to be resilient.
While the first four practices help you embody the freedom you crave, it is through the cultivation of resilience that you get to keep showing up for your relationship with yourself, both in these practices and any others that are currently supporting you.
AND… I think it is deeply important to discuss that resilience may not hold the energy or action you have been taught it does.
I, personally, once believed that resilience was powering through and hustling.
What I want to share with you in this final episode is that, actually, resilience isn’t a hustling, it’s an honoring.
In today’s episode, I dive deeper into:
- The fifth (and final!) practice of freedom: Resilience
- A small practice to attune to your space and come home to your power
- Resilience as an honoring, instead of a hustling to push through
- Cultivating the capacity to keep showing up for yourself
- Committing patiently and steadily to your freedom journey, over time
- Dropping the Dominant Dogma that resilience means you have to be “on” or “positive” through the difficult moments
- Presence, how it upholds your resilience and an easy practice to build your capacity each day
- A list of journal prompts to integrate this practice
- Additional prompts to support you as I end my series on the Five Practice of Freedom
- How you can work with me closely through this process inside my one-on-one coaching space
Listen to the episode wherever you like to listen to your podcasts.
Read on for quote highlights or listen to the episode below:
Hello hello, creative humans, today I am writing to you from bed. I know two weeks in a row! This week is less out of *immediate need* and moreso a pre-emptive choice to rest as I had a big weekend exploring the mountains and the city with visiting family. As someone who navigates burn-out on the regular, I have learned the importance of tending and cultivating space for rest after big events. In the coming months, I’m excited to reveal more of what this looks like as I also begin grad school and will be tending to myself between monthly classes.
But as for today, once again, the white duvet cover holds me, my fuzzy grey blanket from home is covering my legs, and my dog and partner are off taking a walk so it’s quiet and serene in our space right now. Off to my left I have a decaf coffee and a glass of water on the nightstand, and the window is in front of me, with the blinds open so I can see the various angled brick walls all coming together to form an alley, and the blue sky is just visible at the tops of the building. I feel tired, but well and very grateful that my shifted support systems are allowing me to feel well after a busy weekend.
As I take a moment to pause and notice my inner and outer worlds, I encourage you to do the same. Notice the colors within your world, the way the objects around you are placed, where light hits, and where shadows fall. Notice the textures of what is holding you and what is around you. Notice how your body feels in your chair today, how your heart feels, if there are any tender or tense spaces in you being. Not judging what you see and are experiencing, simply noticing it. Allowing it. Honor it with your brief attention and presence. This is a practice of freedom that you can utalize at any time. A practice to attune to your space, and come home to your power.
Today, is the final week of our five week journey through each the Five Practices Of Freedom so as you listen to this podcast, you can not only evaluate the Dominant Dogma I’m sharing about in the latest episode, but you can integrate this practice into your daily life, evaluating the Dominant Dogma in your world, then intentionally choosing how you desire to embody the freedom you crave.
These five practices have been crafted over the past four years while I have mapped my own journey along with the pathway I noticed from each of my coaching clients. It’s a cyclical pathway where you shift your perspective from the Dominant Dogma surrounding you, reclaim inner capacity, and cultivate new more expansive pathways to move forward. The practices can loop and overlap and because of this there is no right or wrong way to engage on this journey. Utilize the practices as they feel good for you, and remember the primary goal is always to live your freedom, right here, right now. Take what serves you, leave the rest, and always put your safety first.
The fifth practice: Resilience
This Personal Freedom Journey and the process self-reclamation requires resilience.
This doesn’t mean hustling, this means honoring. It means showing up for yourself and honoring your unique journey and process. As I’ve shared throughout this entire process: Showing up with resilience is cultivating this stable relationship with yourself that says, “I will keep showing up for myself. I will continue taking action to live with integrity and congruence. I will keep honoring my unique experience and trust what comes up for me. I will find ways to embody the freedom I crave, living into it with each breath.”
This is living your freedom now. In each moment.
In my home I have one small orchid plant. This orchid only blooms once or, if I’m lucky, twice, each year. The little plant requires that I show up for it each and every week, watering it just a little, even when, at times, it appears dead. After about six months of this, it blooms and I get to experience its incredible beauty for about a month before it goes dormant again and I have to patiently wait for it’s next time to blossom.
Resilience is like this.
It’s showing up yourself and your freedom journey month after month and week after week. Even when things may feel “dead” or difficult or people disagree with you or you feel like you’ve failed, you tend to yourself. You find small ways to live your freedom, to live out the five practices, and to hand back the Dominant Dogma which is no longer serving you.
This type of resilience does not mean you have to be “on” or “positive” all the time. You simply have to be present. I do not need to push or force my orchid to bloom—doing that would actually destroy the plant. Instead, I have to trust its timing. Honoring its unique journey and finding goodness and beauty even in the days when it lies dormant.
Alongside journal prompts I will provide at the end of the episode, I want to offer you a simple way you can practice resilience today.
Practice Patient Resilience
Build up patient resilience over time, starting with just one moment each day.
During one moment today, notice how you are feeling and what you need.
- What does freedom look like for me right now?
- What do I need to lean into to truly step into my sovereign power at this moment?
It might require taking an action or speaking to someone. It might require sitting in silence. It might require no change at all—maybe you’re already doing exactly what you need to be doing.
Take the time to ask yourself what you need just once each day until it becomes familiar. Then start to ask yourself more frequently. Keep repeating this practice until it becomes second nature, until you find yourself in a constant state of examining and responding.
Take it slow. Take it easy. Resilience will come. Embarking on this exercise will help prepare you for difficult situations by imagining what you need so you can cultivate support in advance. Practice resilience in the hypothetical and you can develop it in real time.
As you begin, or return to Resilience in your own life, here are a few journal prompts to support your journey:
Begin this practice by integrating play into your journey:
- How do I hope to show up in the face of difficulty?
- When a situation comes up that normally knocks me off balance, how do I hope to respond?
- What support system(s), resources, and tools do I need to show up for myself in this way, with deep alignment inside and out?
- How can I cultivate those support system(s), resources, and tools to create this sense of security and freedom?
- With all this in mind I will live my freedom now by…
And, to wrap up this five week series, here are a few additional prompts to support your freedom:
- What stood out the most to you out of these five weeks, and what lessons revealed themselves if any?
- How did the experience feel in your body?
- Looking back on these five weeks, what feels different now?
And that is what I want to leave you with today! Thank you so much for joining me on this five week journey! If you embarked on this experience with me, I would love to know! Tag me on instagram @megscolleen or shoot me a dm and fill me in on how this series landed with you! Additionally, if you want support on your Freedom Journey I would love to invite you into a one-on-one coaching series.
Your raw magic and innate knowings have been hiding *just* beneath the surface for far to long and as your coach I will teach you to reclaim your right:
🤗 To belong.
🎁 To want.
🗻 To lead.
🌿 To thrive.
🧗 To achieve.
💞 To love and be loved
🎙️ To speak.
🧠 To know.
🧘 To be.
If deep in your spirit you want to feel empowered, share your creativity, live with freedom, and finally feel joyful again, then you’re in the right place! My goal is to help you integrate the parts of you feeling afraid and unsupported, hand back the outdated cultural stories, and guide you to rise as the deeply, wildly, and holistically free human you already are.
This is your time to embody the freedom you crave.
Your next step: Book a FREE Clarity Call with me at megscolleen.com! I hope to see you on a call soon!
Freedom is yours,
Resilience doesn’t mean hustling, it means honoring.
Resilience is a slow, steady patience with the commitments that you make with yourself. (this is a combination of a couple lines)
Find small ways to live your freedom, now.
Resilience does not mean you have to be “on” or “positive” all the time. You simply have to be present.
Mentions & More:
- My previous podcast episodes in this series: Playful Curiosity & Non-Judgement Awareness, Self Trust, and Congruence & Integrity